Reflection of Today

          My Top 10 things to tell Engaged Couples

1. Know your spouse's flaws and love him even more! Love the flaws he carries with him.

2. Keep expectations realistic for your spouse.

3. Prepare for the years of aging with your spouse. For you both will be old physically and mentally.

4. Marry a man you can suffer through cancer, death, a birth of a child, witnesses to the marriage of your children and birth of a grandchild.

5. Know who you marry, find out all the important stuff about him.

6. Get to know his father. Your husband has watched this man throughout his life. He watched how he treated his mom and her children.

7. Know what kind of family he wants. How many children, and morals he wants to instill in his children.

8. Is he comfy in a church pew?

9. Where does he want to live?

10. Will he stand up and defend you through any battle this life holds?




I am a country girl, from living in the country to listening to good country music. I am a person that can hear a song and go directly to a memory. My favorite country is the country songs that take me back to my childhood. The safe, secure feeling of having 3 brothers across the hall and parents next door as I fell asleep and 2 grandmothers that I adored. I would listen to music in the old van and dream of winning one of those CMA awards on stage. I adored it. Oh and yes I was a head knocker, I don't know what you call people like me, but I knocked my head and memorized every word and note to every song. We have satellite radio in our car free for another month and I have my dial on Primetime Country. Love it and as I drive, I am instantly taken back to the happiness of my childhood.
I heard the song from Aaron Tippin about how you have to Stand for Something or You'll Fall for Anything. Isn't that the truth. There were many lyrics that caught my attention, as now, I am older and words and phrases take on a different meaning. There was the line "What ever you do today, you'll have to sleep with tonight." A very interesting lesson, I will go into great detail with, when my kids reach their teens. Perhaps this is one's conscience. For every choice they make, they must make, knowing they will have to go home face their parents and siblings and lie in bed that night knowing what they did that day. The saying never go to bed angry, but maybe we shouldn't lie our heads down at night knowing we did wrong during the day. Only sleep with a warm heart and a sound mind.
Another line that I loved was "Never comprise what's right and avoid your family name." Now that I have a boy. (Part of that sentence still scares me,Yikes.) My child will carry on our last name. Wow what an honor and huge responsibility. I came from a family that were few with my last name. It was kind of hard to let go of that name, but I also felt strong with the new last name I received. I felt honored to take another last name. My child has to carry that name on. I hope he will be a good hearted, kind gentleman that will wear his name well and may he never turn from his family. It all starts with the family, they make you who you are, the good and bad. I hope as a mother I can show him the great honor of being a member of our family.
So if you get the time ever, or notice this particular song on the radio stop, and think as you listen to every phrase. I think it is getting harder and harder to hear good songs on the radio these days.









I have been reading a book when I get time about angels. '100 Ways to Attract Angels" A couple of days ago I read a page about reflecting on qualities. The page said to close your eyes and point to a word. The choices began with a letter in the word Angel

A bundance
N ewness
G rowth
E nthusiasm
L ove

I did what the passage said. My word was Newness. I thought "newness" and shrugged. What in the world, I don't own anything new. I am wearing clothes from high school and I am 31 years old. Which actually, now that I think about it, that is pretty good considering I have carried 4 children!!!!  But the more I sat back and took a look at my whole life I realized there were so many new things coming and had come my way.
I have a new baby at home, almost 3 months old. A boy, he is my first boy. That is very new to me and I am slowly adjusting to that. It just so happened we were picking up our new car to fit this new edition to our family that very night. I turned back in the old car on way to pick up the new and told my husband I remember looking in the back seat and wanting so bad to have a car seat for a baby back there and now wham bam bam 3 children and I thought I would never be able to have children.  I struggled a little that night, I am not good at change. I am a very routine person, one might say compulsive. Things are done at the same time every day, meals are eaten at same time everyday. House work done same day of week.  I don't do well with change and newness was such a strange concept to me. As I was walking away from car dealership I kept repeating, "embrace the newness". I fear change. I don't warm up to it quickly and get freigtened and shakin up. But I must embrace it. I must let go of a lot of old and welcome all this new. It is happening for a reason and I must take it and enjoy it! So throughout the day when something new would come up I would recognize it, stop and appreciate it. I would sit back and enjoy it. Wow!